I’ve spent most of my life wondering, why am I so different than those around me? Part of it is a classic case of my “only child syndrome,” but it goes deeper than that.
I’ve always felt uncomfortable with intimacy or attachment, finding myself falling in love with an “idea” of something, pulling away when I actually get it.
Commitment isn’t exactly my forte. I’ve self sabotaged or purposely ruined relationships, not knowing I’m a strange breed referred to as a “counterdependent.”
Below are 7 Signs and Signals of Counterdependency- does this describe you?
- Other people sometimes perceive you as aloof
- You remember your childhood as lonely, even if it was happy
- You sometimes have fantasies about running away from your current life
- Loved ones complain that you are emotionally distant
- You prefer to do things for yourself
- It’s very hard to ask for help
- You tend to feel uncomfortable in close relationships
Have you ever found yourself saying the following?
• “I don’t need anyone.”
• “Don’t let them too close they’ll just disappoint you.”
• “I’d rather be successful than have a relationship anyway.”
• “Love is overrated, I don’t need it.”
• “People just take take take and leave me drained, it’s not worth it.”
• “I’m too good for him/her anyway.”
• “Don’t let your guard down, or they’ll just hurt you.”
• “He/she could never handle me.”
• “Nobody can understand me, they aren’t smart enough.”